FRUMP GIRL – from Drab to Fab at Fifty

I don’t feel like I’m 50 years old, but a recent photo from a wedding certainly proved that I look like an old lady.


That’s me on the left.  WHAT WAS I THINKING?

Who was this frumpy woman, and why is her backside shaped just like my Mom’s?  I was horrified—how had I let myself go this far from what I was when I was first married, ten years before?  I pulled out the pictures….Yep, I look like a completely different person.

This was me ten years ago…

10wedding   Yeah, yeah…I know I have the poofy white dress on, but the hair and makeup and shape were the same as every day.

Now, my hair is graying, I’ve gained some weight, I wear glasses and sometimes forget to put on makeup.  Menopause may be creeping up on me, but I’m not giving in without a fight.

I remember the great scene in the movie big Fat Greek Wedding, where the newly-made-over    heroine explains to her new boyfriend that she had been Frump Girl before.  Holy cow, I had become Frump Girl, too!



Yep, the resemblance is startling, isn’t it? :(

Instead of having a mid-life crisis involving a red sports car and a tanned pool boy, I’ve decided that this wake up call  can be used to re-pot myself.   This is my journey–to get in shape, to learn new skills and have no fear while I move in new directions, and to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.  To me, the journey is just as important as the destination.

I vacillate between a self-serving vanity to Get My Sexy Back, and the desire to improve my character enough to feel like I’ve had real personal growth. Maybe I need a bit of both. I’m making lists of what I’d like to accomplish and trying to figure out a game plan for how to get there. Hopefully, if I set my course and start sailing, I’ll wind up where closer to where I want to be.

What would YOU do?  Would you learn a new language or work on a great piece of art?  Would you focus on how to help others, or focus on improving your health or appearance?  Would you become more spiritually disciplined or seeking, make a bucket list, master a new skill?

2 comments to FRUMP GIRL – from Drab to Fab at Fifty

  1. Christina says:

    Improve my health and appearance first. Become more spiritually seeking and go back to school to master many new skills. I feel like many new years resolutions coming on in July!

  2. Nancy says:

    When I turned 50 I got a tattoo and a belly ring but didn’t
    change anything else. :-( I had my big wakeup call last year when I landed in the hospital so Weight Watchers and a v olunteer job tutoring young children in reading. We’re all works in progress, and sometimes the learning curve’s a bitch ;-) . You are NOT frumpy — you’re fabulous
    and always have been !

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